Law of Attraction: How Stop Doing What You're Doing, to Get What You're Getting in Your Relationships 

Bette was singing at the top of her lungs while running on her treadmill. The songs lyrics had her running faster and faster.

She wanted to run away from her life. The lyrics seem to be a story of many of her relationships.

“Over and over again, we keep fightin and lovin and nothing ain’t right
We go to stop what we is doing and breakup tonight
My pain is got to go and I know what I need to do
Baby, baby I gots to do something different with you” (thanks Temptations)

Some of you may relate to Bette. She was giving her energy, attention and focus to a relationship that was making her crazy.  It wasn’t working anymore. She kept attracting the same relationships over and over again and didn’t know how to stop. One thing is for sure if you keep doing what you did, you will keep getting what you got. Imagine how Bette felt as this was her 8th dating relationship since her divorce and it was about to break up.

Many of Bette’s friends were not surprised that she was attracting the wrong kind of relationships, after all she was independently minded, she had her own views and her own thoughts and she really exuded the qualities of wanting to be alone in her relationship even if she didn’t mean too or intend to do it.

Now Bette wasn’t doing consciously. She had the Law of Attraction working for her and she really didn’t realize it. Just imagine how Bette felt as she had left her 20 year marriage, and was attracting the same kinds of relationships.  Relationships were it was better to be alone. Yes, she realized that she was doing the same thing over and over again, and it definitely wasn’t working for her. She was acting as if she wanted to be alone in her relationships but inside she really, really wanted an intimate relationship with a partner.

What were her alternatives? What did she want to be in a relationship or have independence? What would she have to do differently to get over how she saw relationships in her mind? Bette decided to focus on the kind of relationships that she wanted. She started to focus on the abundance around her. 

Now imagine what she started to notice when she decided to use the Law of Attraction in a very different way? She started to notice the happy couples in restaurants, movies and at the gym. She noticed that women who had great careers where dating and having fun. She noticed women who really wanted to be in a relationship. Everywhere she went she watched couples. She chose ones that she respected and admired and looked for what she had been missing.

And then she had a tipping point. A point when things started to change for her.

She let herself get in touch with the feelings that she would have in a healthy intimate relationship. She savored those feelings day after day, after day. She wrote them, she sang them, she hummed them, she imagined them, and she visualized those feelings of being in a relationship She imagined what it would be like to be in a fun, loving, tender, intimate relationship where she still felt empowered as women. She imagined that she already was in the kind of relationship that she had dreamed about. She practiced and practiced those feelings and situations.

And then things started to happen fast. The Law of Attraction was at work again.

Bette started attracting the kinds of men she had never been in relationships with before.  She felt empowered to be with these men.  They were exactly like she had imagined. Bette than attracted “the one” that she had always dreamed of and he was even better than she thought he would be. She wanted to spend all of her time with him.

So what’s the lesson? Get out there and start noticing the abundance or great relationships. Create the experience for yourself by imaging how it will feel when you do attract the one that you want. The key here is to really, really feel like you are already in it.

Now imagine how fast it will come to you!

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